You don't have to hell H how honest you are, how wonderful you are. He knows it.
Also, I think, the progidal generally doesn't come home until he's squandered his inheritance. You H hasn't done that. It's going to need to get worse for him before he changes his mind and "comes to his senses." The OW is going to get really bitchy, and he'll start to remember how good the relationship with you is.
And remember, if he came home tomorrow -- if your relationaldynamic remains the same, the marriage is no stronger than before. You need to keep GAL, growing stronger, asking for what you want, helping your H ask for what he wants, setting boundaries, and respecting yourself.
A friend told me that most marriages end, not because they are bad, but because they are lackluster. Good people in good marriages have affairs.
