Yes, when H and I disagree, it's definitely a win-lose scenario as in 'I'm right and you're wrong'.
I try to set it up differently, so that it's not so much a win-lose, it just never works. Last nigth I told H that I understood the point he's made in the past that S6 needs the one-on-one time that he gets after D4 goes to bed. I said maybe we can figure out a way to work that in some other way. For instance, maybe we can schedule a few hours each week or every other week where we rotate between mommy and S6 and Daddy and D4 and vice versa. H's answer to that was that 'it doesn't work that way. the time isn't something you can 'save up'.
GEL, I try really hard to be fair and reasonable and I truly don't want to be the type of person that people look at and say 'she has to have everything her way'. With that being said, I just don't think it's reasonable to say that a good bedtime for a 6 year old is 10:15pm. In my eyes, it's practically an absolute, especially when S6 is falling asleep twice in the same night. S6 has also had behavior problems at school lately, particularly PE. We got a phone call last week and I have a parent-teacher conference tomorrow. I think that a lot of the reason for his behavior issues are that he's tired! He'll have a temper tantrum at home and then fall asleep shortly after.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
