WOW! You are so right!! He is an avoider too! I dont like conflict but things bother me enuf to talk so I feel like I am a good communicator, just need to not sugar coat so much. I tried last night to talk to him again. This time I said, "I am not asking for anything from you except your opinion, I just want to figure out why I am like this or how I can change things around so we are both happy. I dont want to fester resentment adn i dont want to drive you away. (he agreed) I know you love me and care so it would benefit you as well to work with me, maybe my expectations are way off??..." I asked him what he thought my issue was... he thinks I need reassured all the time. Maybe he is right to an extent but I think I just need to feel connected (thru touch?)...doesnt have to be sex, just touch. We could be watching a movie spending time together and its not enuf just to sit on the same couch, I want to be touching, touching legs, holding hands, something. Thats just me!!
His ex is very harsh and tells the kids negative things about him all the time, I do think he is depressed at times!!
Amen, I will go first!!! I will do whatever it takes!! I can't thank you enuf for talking to me!! Do you think I went about it the right way this time?? I never put him down when we talk, ever. I am all about praising to success!! BUT... once again, he changed the subject and didnt talk to me about it. Just avoided it again!! How can I work with that?? I just want to act differently. How can he jsut blow me off when he knows I am hurting?? I never ever blamed him or put him down, if I had a problem with my friend, he would talk to me... I am crushed... again.
