Heartbroken, that he and OW are having "issues" is a good thing!
He will come back to a loving and forgiving W. Right now I believe he will need you more than ever. Look at this as a very good thing, OK? Just let him come back on his own - don't pressure! I made that mistake, but they will come back if they know they have a future at home.
It will take time, you're in it for the long haul. Thinking of you!
Take care!
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~