Almost WAW - Do I need to reveal affair to H?

[alexjadams]

You haven't ended the affair, for your marriage to work you can only built one house at a time, things will never work for you that way
If your affair is so innocent put yourself in the shoes of the OM wife do you want that to be you?
How do you know if your husband isn't having one on you?
Get out of your fantasy world, because even if you do get together, if you to don't work on the issues within yourself the two of you will be here again
If your husband is all that bad why did you marry him? Woman up get a divorce and try to make things work with you so-called true love. I bet you he won't do the same.
you need to tell your husband about it all of it, and then face up to your actions if he leaves, deal if he stays do everything you can to fix it
But this isn't what you wanted to hear; you want me to say that you can have your cake & eat it too! It's all going to be ok. My wife thought that and didn't realize the damage she caused in our marriage & is now trying to do everything she can to fix it. The sad part is if she would have done this while the affair was an EA & it may not have turn into a PA & I might be willing to work as hard as she is doing now. Every time I look at her it's not the same & she can see it on my face no matter how hard I try to hide it
For your sake I hope the marriage is over and the two of you don't fix it. Because when all this comes to light (and it will) and you decide to save your marriage (and you will) your husband might not want to work anymore. I hope it's worth it!