I meant to add that also....when my H left I had no choice but to take care of things....I had to move me and the kids out of my parents home...without his help....I had to box up all of his things and put in to storage...when I did find him or he called I can't recall which happened...I did make him come down and put the storage in his name so if he didn't pay it was his stuff to get lost...not mine...I also made him put his phone in his name....and the home phone in my name, remove his name from it...I went and had his name removed from my car....I started taking care of ME!!!
Believe me I suprised him because he thought I was totally dependent on him and that I would just stay at my parents and be miserable...I didn't do that...I got training, got a job, got my two adult daughters jobs, found us an apartment, and moved out on our own...
Honey, you can and will do this...you don't live for him....and believe it or not your happiness isn't dependent upon him....because think about your life before him...you had friends, you were happy, you had a life....and you will again...and you know what???...this just might be what snaps his head back to see what you are doing....right now OW can present that to him....
my H told me that the OW was supportive and blah blah blah...I told him that is because she hasn't been through anything with him of course she can be supportive...it has all been fun and games....but let things get stressed and strained and then tell me she meekly follows at your feet!!!
So...Tomorrow is a new day....you are going to put on a smile, look pretty, and start making plans for the rest of your life...oh BTW...if you have Jiffy Lube near you they will change your oil and then for the next 3 months/3000 miles you can take your car in anytime and they will check the fluids and add as needed for no charge!!!....H will take note when you tell him that you already took care of your oil changes....
I want to hear positive things....what you have done, what you plan to do....and start calling some friends or going out to meet new friends....tell us all about YOUR NEW AND WONDERFUL LIFE.....live it and you will believe it!!!
