Discussion on MrsCAC4 thread - Making assumptions

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Corri,

Intuition probably depends on perspective and context. I believe Cobra may have been intuitive with your situation and with others however he does not seem to "get" me very well. I say that because not much of what he directs specifically at me about how I feel rings true. BUT I am okay with that because I know I am a bit different and especially because he does not know much about me.

Obviously the discussion that was started on Mrs.cac4's thread was more about general issues and since then it has digressed into a personal exchange discussing my past marriage. I do not know if it was accidental or not on Cobra's part but I have consciously let it continue that way because I felt that he did not want to discuss his own issues and was more comfortable pushing at my issues. Plus this might be his way of trying to gather more data on me.

I really do not know anything about him or his situation but I do know that he can be forceful and quick to a judgment. That is not necessarily a bad thing and can be a great thing in certain occupations. I would liken it to a baseball player. The batter has to evaluate a pitch and make a split second decision to take a swing. A great batter doesn't even bat .400. But that same quickness to judgment might be a hindrance in other areas of life.

I appreciate hearing different views even when it's not comfortable. I believe I should be open enough to look at the possibility that there is a different way of looking at things. And even if I am just defending my point, it can be helpful to look at things from a different angle. And that is why I am willing to share my story again because I feel it is different than many stories but still shares enough similarities to give others a fresh perspective on themselves, their spouse and their marriage.

I appreciate that you are protecting Cobra and his feelings. I would hope that if I do overstep a boundary or hurt his feelings that he would let me know.

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