Huband just moved in with OW

[Danu]

My H. wanted to continue sleeping together, hugging ,kissing, all that stuff, and I told him that it was giving me false hope, so unless he wanted to work things out he had to stop it! I don't regret that decision. In fact, there's not much that I do regret in this situation. I tried to do everything right, he needed space, and I gave it to him. I was also available any time he wanted to be with me. Some would say I was a sucker and let him have his cake and eat it too. Maybe that's true, but like you, I took it one day at a time. I figured that this was the best way to show him that I have unconditional love for him. If chooses to throw it away, it's his loss. I doubt he'll ever find anyone else who feels this way about him. Certainly not the OW. She doesn't have the capacity for unconditional love, because she's just as messed up as my H.

Most of my friends said he'd never leave. SURPRISE! But, it's easier on me with him gone. No more cell phone buzzing with a call from the OW. No more walking on egg shells. He wants this new life, and now he's got it!

Now, my friends are taking bets on how soon he'll be back. And, they're telling me to prepare myself. I'll cross that bridge when I come to it, if and when it happens.

If/when he files for a D. I will look at it like some on this group do. It will be a piece of paper only, and I will continue to stand for him as long as I can. I have faith that something good is out there for me. If it's with him, great! If not, I also have faith that there is some wonderful man out there, and when I'm emotionally whole again I will find him.

Hang in there TabD. Taking it one day at a time is the only way to get through this and know in your heart that you've done all you could!

Danu