Advice of how to handle financial issues

[HalfMissing]

I know what I need to do first is just split our savings so I have a cushion. I I think it would be easiest to have one small joint account for everyday bills, and then two separate savings accounts. I have to calm down and play it by ear. See how stable he seems to be over the months and if there are any financial surprises.

I definitely think his MLC is caused by not having teenage years due to his father's death. His mother forced him to be a replacement husband and dumped so much on him. These are his new teenage years. He was so excited about buying stuff for his apartment yesterday and all the leftover stuff he is going to get from his mother's home. (Hey maybe he can get a futon and some milk crates!)

One good sign is that this morning he took a bamboo plant in a container that I made for him in pottery class. To me, it shows that it must have mattered to him in some way. Unfortunately, the kids were upset about it and asked me later if they have to hide their things so Daddy doesn't take them. (I'm going to hide Puppy under my bed so he won't find him!) Grrr.

Thanks for all the advice! I am digesting it all. I don't think I need to act too fast on the financial matters.

What do you think about visitation? How much should I let him see the kids? I don't want to give up too much of my time with them. I thought every other weekend and a few evenings in between. He is not arguing. He originally planned on driving them to school every morning but I think that would be hard on the kids. Hi Daddy ... Bye Daddy.

Yesterday, the kids and I talked about all the fun things we could do together now. These are things that we always wanted to do with Daddy, but he was too busy on the computer or had other excuses. My priority is to spend a lot of fun time with the kids.