I agree and I feel guilty to this day!! I was married 11 years and it started almost immediately after we said I do. Yes, we have three children!! Thats what makes it hurt like hell!! No, my partner had been divorced and alone for a couple of years. NO. Yes, he has been married before. It was so hard for me to get divorced. I didnt want to be divorced but it had gotten so bad that I decided being lonely alone was better than being lonely married. If I had this book years ago.........