Advice of how to handle financial issues

[MidwesternGirl]

Where I live, they will not remove a spouse from an account. For example, if I went in and said I want my spouse removed from such and such account, they won't do it without that spouse's signature.

One thing that OW trained H to do is to cancel me from credit cards. I had a Target Visa card which I was the primary account holder and I had gotton a card for him at one time.

He called them and cancelled using "marital status" as the reason. We are not divorced nor are we legally separated but they let him do that.

Just be really careful.

I say this because you will come under so much stress and will make mistakes along the way.

I used to write all the bills, etc. and one time due to stress, I discovered I was about $500 short in our checking account. I transferred money from a Visa and put it in our joint checking account.

I told him THREE TIMES what I did and he did not have a problem with it.

BUT, a few weeks later, he accused me of funneling money to a Japanese person!!! He said he called the bank and they confirmed it!

I got on that darned phone and called the bank, explaining what H just told me.

The lady laughed and said this is not true, she thought H was just playing a joke on me.

I told H I called the bank and called his bluff. He was po'd. We know OW trained him in that scheme as well.

Just slow down, relax (hard to do, I know), and take it one day at a time.