I did not want to file either and I didn't but what I did do was withdraw money from our account so that I could have it. He was mad but I reminded him that we have kids.

If you can, do this. Even if you have to take a cash advance from another source, you need to have some backup cash.

My pastor told me a year ago that 95% of those who filed for a legal sep. ended up getting divorced. I did not know that.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19