Advice of how to handle financial issues

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I don't want to file for a legal separation. Maybe it is just too soon and I am in denial. (He moved out yesterday.) I have to think this is a temporary situation right now. I want my H back!

The only reason I can think of for filing for a legal separation right now is if he started spending all the money recklessly and accumulated debt that I would be liable for. Then the house would be in jeopardy. So far he is acting rationally. He honestly thinks that with our savings, this money is no big deal. He told my D not to worry about money, that nothing would change after I made a comment to her that we would have to cut back some. He is clueless as to the cost of his actions but seems in control right now. He is being frugal on what he is buying for his apartment.

I have to balance my financial fears with seeming to accelerate things. I get so mad thinking how many years I clipped coupons and pinched pennies so that we would be so secure and then this happens.