Advice of how to handle financial issues

[HalfMissing]

I have been posting on newcomers and they recommended I post here. I need to know how to handle financial issues now that my H has moved out.

I want to protect the kids and myself and not lose our house and savings. How do you balance between saving your assets and not provoking them into filing for a divorce? I want to save my marriage of 20 years but I want to make sure my children do not lose their home.

My H has been lying about money he has been spending on Second Life. So far the amount is not too great and he says that he is done spending money now that he has his "business" set up on it. But he could be lying about it and will just find a sneakier way of hiding his spending.

Also, how do you handle the cake eating? If he can see the kids and stop over any time he wants, what will ever convince him that he made a mistake? He has the best of his old first life and now can play Second Life an his new bachelor life anytime he wants. What limits do you set up?

Please read my other posts and give me some advice. I don't know what to do. Thanks so much!
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