Good Luck with your self exploration!! I can be the same way. Trying to deal with too many things all at once is overwhelming.
Not to push too hard but I really enjoyed the book Middle Passages. If you check Amazon.com you can read a 4-5 page excerpt and see if it appeals to you.
Thanks for being able to be so open and honest about your relationship with your father. Deraven and I have had some good discussions because he has an 8 year old daughter and he wants to be aware of the influence that he has with her.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus