Hairdog, Thanks for the hugs...I've decided it sucks growing up. Uh-oh, now Lil will tell me I am being too 4-ish in a bad way.
PS...Ultimately achieving a compromise is where the gold is. That's what loving people do. For a long time I have felt he was making up his mind about really being in this relationship. The same could be said about me, but I was trying harder. I remain ever hopeful.