Journaling: D11 was with H last night. He called while I was out and asked how to activate her new phone. I told him and hung up. Nice but brief.
D11 called to say goodnight to me. She sounded quiet. H was lurking and she asked what I did last night and what s14, the dog and I were doing. H says that he has to make her call me. He, the better parent, knows that this is the right thing to do. I know that every night I remind d11 to call him. Sometimes she is so tired that she gives me a hard time, but she goes in her room and shuts the door and I think she calls him. Who knows?
Anyway, after d11 and I hung up I called her back a few minutes later to tell her there was a school delay. As we were hanging up H gets on the phone to inquire about what I want to do about C. I thought that I told him. Obviously he only hears what he wants to. I told him last night I didn't want to get into it. That I haven't got ahold of C yet to discuss my feelings. We have been playing telephone tag. Anyway, he asks if I can make appt. for he and s14 to go back to c. I told him that I will check with C to see if that is the next step since s14 is getting C in school once a week I don't want him to be on overload. I then politely got off the phone.
Around 10:30 I am half asleep and phone rings...it's h. I don't answer. 4 times he calls within the hour. I turn phone off and awaken to 2 text messages from H asking if we can work together for the children. How he wants to be part of their lives too. I didn't respond. I just feel like he is looking for everyone to tell him that what he is doing is ok and that it isn't going to affect the kids. When he first left his BIL told him that BIL's dad did the same thing. He didn't speak to his dad for 15 years. Right before his dad passed he made peace with him and he has no regrets about his silence. H's brother also told him of other friends and family members who have lost their R with children due to their walking out on the family. H didn't want to listen then and still doesn't.
So BIL that I work with came in today. H took d11 over to there house for nephew's bday. This is sister he said he never wanted to be in the same room with ever again. Anyway, BIL says d11 went off to play with cousins and h stayed and just didn't say much. BIL said he looked like a man who saw funtioning families and was torn between his new life and his old. Not sure if that is true but whatever. BIL also said he doesn't think H will come back ever. That he is a lost soul. Not sure if that is true or not. Perhaps the more family functions H is forced to attend by MIL will show him what he is missing.
So Super Dad has d11 call me this morning before school. Trying to be the team player that he is. Looking for ways to throw things in my face. I have d11 call you all the time you never have her call me. UGH!!!!
