Up again... can't sleep... So just thought I'd pop in and say hi for a minute to maybe get some thoughts out and help me to get back to bed for at least a little while.
Please tell me what you think about him leaving the office last night without even saying goodbye... I want to know your take on this.
Okay... so about the "mothering" him. Will you help me with that? I don't know how to change some of that. In our business, and also in our personal lives, we've just each taken on certain "roles." He takes care of any car issues, repair issues, the yard, etc. I take care of the household chores, the bills, travel arrangements, etc. It's the way it's always been, and it seems to have always "worked" for both of us. I honestly don't sense that this bothers him, but maybe I just don't see it. I certainly don't have a desire to take care of my own car or to repair our toilet, etc. We just have our own roles we do, and it works. Are you saying I need to not do these things anymore? If so, how do I transition into that? Do I give him the bills and tell him to pay them? I don't feel like these issues are part of my "controlling" nature but rather that we've each just taken out the roles that we have strength in, and I honestly don't feel like he has a problem with this, but maybe I just don't see it...
1210, I know what you're saying that I have to apply the DB principles faithfully. I know how important it is, and I know, especially now, that it's the only chance that I've got to get this M back on track. Please help me to be strong. I feel so weak.
Looking back, I guess I've always had self-confidence issues to a certain extent. Maybe I need to get some books on that issue? Lin, have you found any helpful books on the communication "beating a dead horse," asking a million questions, etc., issue? I know I need to use this time to better myself and work on these issues.
Also, please tell me what to do if he ever DOES come home for a night, okay?
Well, going to try to get a little more rest here... Thanks again for all of your advice and support. I know you're right, and I know what I need to do, and I also know that since you've been there, you know how hard it is, too. So please help me to be strong and forgive me when I mess up sometimes...
