I like your definition too Whapu. Either way, Mama is right--the main issue for us is to stop fretting over it and let it go. Glad you liked the positives list, and hope you keep it up!
Here's what was positive from yesterday:
H's mother invited me to attend the local high school musical last night, so H came to stay with the kids. He seemed rather annoyed when we left that we would be gone for three hours--he's trying to get ready for a big riding trip with his dad and brothers this weekend...things to do, you know? Anyway, I returned home expecting him to be a little ornery. He wasn't. He had all the kids in bed, diapers changed (this NEVER happened once pre-bomb...he took great pride in the fact he'd never changed a diaper). He was cheerful and even spent an hour lounging on the couch watching TV with me.
