Hi Petri, just thought I'd share my experience with hpv. A few years after I met my husband I started getting 'bumps'. I have never slept with anyone else (really truly!) and neither has he, we were both virgins. He has never had any signs of it. I got mine frozen off when they appeared and the doctor told me to use colourless iodine and a prescription burn cream for a few months. I haven't had any recurrences since the last one was frozen, which was over 10 years ago now.
I can only imagine how I would have felt if I had found out my H had been unfaithful and that's how I got this problem. I bet I would be pretty pissed off though! Your wife has to get past the hurt before she can move on I guess. Good luck!
It can't come quickly enough
And now you've spent your life
Waiting for this moment
And when you finally saw it come
It passed you by and left you so defeated.
Scissor Sisters - 'It Can't Come Quickly Enough'