I am reading your book right now! I am on Chapter 5 and very anxious to find some answers. I am divorced and remarried. This was definitely a huge issue in my first marriage and the reason it did not work. I tried everything and talked until I was blue in the face. I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me!! I always told him that I was a "touch" person and about the failure to thrive syndrome and that it described how I felt!! I truly felt like I gave it my all, read tons of books, ect. So, I ended up having an affair, no surprise there, got divorced and eventually remarried. It was awesome, my new husband actually wanted me... alot!! We were so close and he brought me out of my shell that I had gone into a long time ago. We were very sexual and very intimate. We laugh and get along great! But after a year of marriage... oh my god, it happened again to me. I know he loves me and is happy to be with me but there is no passion, no "want to", and no flirting ect. What am I doing wrong???? How could this happen to me twice?? I feel betrayed.. he knew what I went thru the first time and he just seemed to "get it". We talked for hours and hours!! We still have a quickie once a week on the weekend but that is it for the whole week!! NOTHING ELSE and I never turn him down even tho I am angry!! I do believe that he feels like he needs to, which I think is a sure sign of love. I have written him letters and talked to him about it many times, but he just tells me that I am correct and he has to do better, if I got a dime every time I have heard that line!!!!!!!!!! I wanted us to just keep getting closer and closer and more intimate. I thought we would always be able to discuss sex and everything. He is no longer a talker. He gets annoyed when I want to discuss anything and now I am scared to bring anything up. ANYWAY, I have been reading your book and I do get it that if I change, things have to change. I have been here before and couldnt fix it. I have so much resentment and the fact that he wont talk, I am fresh out of hope, even as I am reading your book. I am angry because I know that this book could really help our marriage but he will NOT read anything that I ask him to. I am really looking forward to your new book!!! Thanks.
