No. I don't necessarily think that would be "safe."
Quote: As far as the "love languages" don't know what you mean..
Have you read the book "5 Love Languages" by Chapman? Since you are a DB veteran, I kind of assumed you did...sorry. In any case, this book discusses how there are 5 primary love languages that human beings need; however, one always shines significantly above the rest for each individual. These are: physical touch, words of affirmation, receiving gifts, acts of service, and quality time. When one determines the love language of their S, and gives them what they need, then they feel loved, and thus, feel love for the partner who is providing it. Oftentimes, we know what love language we want FROM our S, and tend to give it to them thinking they'd like the same thing...but it's not so. For example, my W's language is "acts of service," but mine is "physical touch," so the way I used to show her I loved her was by touching her a lot. You see? It didn't really nurture her love for me because I wasn't nurturing her love. It always brings up the question of what did OP provide to your S that you were not providing?
So, my point is to ask you (after reading the book) what "love language" you think your H most prefers and how can you engage that "love language" to help bring him around?
