Thanks Jethro, oh he's a good listener ..with everyone but me seems like..if I bring up some porblems at work he will listen, offer me ways to deal with it, but do you mean some issues about us? As far as the "love languages" don't know what you mean..I should try the leg thing(kinda sounds sexual!!)He was the toucher..why won't he allow himself that..he seems to hug people at church..I ache so when I see that. Dotty, was over at your post..it sure sounds like your and mine are carbon copies...mlc? sad that they are so unsure about what life has to offer or what is reight in front of them..but I liked your posts about being a friend..go about each day and not worry what they are doing..I too still wait to see if he will call me, for a Friday night movie..then get down when he doesn't..we have to stop doing it... Talk to you later Sue