You can do this. Remember, there is something better coming. You may not see it right now as things are much too dark, but a better life is on it's way. At least you know where you stand, officially, sad as it seems, this must bring a bit of relief. So now you have to figure out how to move on. What Alaska said about cutting out all contact except for in regards to your D is a good idea. You need time to process all of this. You also need to take the time to do whatever it is that you need to do to move on.
I've heard there is life after all of this mess. At the very least, you can close your eyes at night knowing you did everything you could possibly do to save your marriage. Your W cannot and I promise you that she WILL regret it later. What a foolish woman.
