Hi, Jill thanks for stopping by...we have not really talked since Nov when h moved out..I don't want to push anything too soon..3 months is not a long time for someone to find themselves and sort things out..so I don't want to rock the boat..I did ask him though when I saw ring was off if that was a for sure sign to me that m was over..he said no..I was afraid to ask why then.. The ea thing is still a bother to me..I am happy for you that your h was strong enough to see through this woman..see the ff of my h is an acoholic..she had a bad m..likes atttention and my h was there for her, as he probably would be there for just about anyone, m or f..is is a very good listener..often gets kidded about putting a minister sign on his door(in fact he has become involved in our church and attending classes to be a lay leader) so he needed the attention from her I guess, as I was clingy about him having outside things..we just spent he first 20 years being at home..no outside stuff and not together stuff..the kids and home were my life and I guess I felt like they were to be his too...I have learned so much this past year, Of course my kids are 20 and 23...if I had to give any advice to young couples it would be to have outside activities with each other and with your own friends. So you are in Hawaii..is the wonderful place that everyone says it is?? Take care, and thanks again Sue
