sorry to admit in my pathtic state lately haven't done much reading but did just read your last post...
something you have to realize is that before you can get to know eachother again...first you must get to know yourselves..you have mentioned many times..not taking the time during your m to do things for yourselfs but simply living for the children..I'm sure that in doing so you lost a bit of yourselves...take the time now to get to know sue..who is sue...what does she like to do? what are her interests..hobbies...goals...ambitions...etc...it's never to late to start living for you...
what helped me along the way before h came home was to picture my life three possible ways
1 h comming home and us working this out...what was I doing and what was my life like
2 h not comming home..what was I doing and what was MY life like
3 h not comming home...me ending up with someone else...what was I doing and what was MY life like..
take some time to think about the answer to this question...list out the different scenarios and find the common thread..the what you will be doing...and work toward that...let that be your focus rather than focussing on the question of will he or wont he return.
in the movie jerry mcguire there is a sappy line..."you complete me" what a load of crap I think that line is...if you are not whole and need someone to complete you then you are not living ...if you need someone to complete you then you do not have anything to offer them in return.
yes I am a romantic I'm sure you can tell from my thread...but the fact of the matter is you must be whole..fill your life with things that YOU want to do..be the person you want to be...and others will be drawn to you!!
