Good morning Sue,
I think Bob's idea of a "Thinking about you" card is appropriate. It does let him know he is in your thoughts without the pressure of any expectations in the traditional context.

As far as being on the receiving end, in order to avoid being let down, try to base your expectations on what happened last year. I know its not what you desire, but the up side will be, if he then does spring something on you, it will be a genuinely pleasant surprise.

'til later,
KAW