HI, had lunch with daughter and h today.. he is so relaxed..like so many years ago...so I question that it is me and our life together that he was tired of and being on his own is what he is liking...he told me that our male pastor at church asked the female pastor(whom h has talked to about himself)if they needed to worry about my h and the church sec(who has had some problems in her m also)becasue they are at the church working together alot.That made me soooo furious...why ***it, does everyone always assumme there is "something" going on with male and females being together as friends??? My h does the financial part of the church, so yes he is there working and so is the other gal...at first h said he was angry, but then the sermon by the female pastor was about letting go of the "nets" in your life that are bothering you, as in the story about the fishermen putting down their nets to follow Jesus...h said he felt a peace after the sermon...all afternoon I re hashed it all and tried to see that people are going to talk..and I have no doubts that there is nothing going on..as I said at the very beginning of my posts months ago, I have never felt any threat where any other woman was involved until the "needy" ff came into our lives.H actually called me at work a few hours later to say he might come over Sunday to do taxes online...and I brought up how the pastors comment about him really bothered me, but that I was trying to let go of the things people say...he said that the people that respect us and really know us and the situation are the ones that really matter.We are truly talking so much better and more open then anytime in our 24 yrs together.. A very hugh step...and on Sunday I may just be gone, for a little while when he comes over, so he can see that I am not just hanging here waiting for him.