Morning...thanks for your words of wisdom...LL, i am doing good..it does seem to go in waves though...as you well know.It is strange as I talk to some of my friends and family,they just don't get what it is I am doing...They don't understand how I can be happy and feel good about me and things that are happeneing...they don't say it, but I feel like they are saying.."get rid of him, he left so he's no good..They just don't get it..and maybe in the end that is what I will do, but I will ahve known that I tried...and for me and especially our kids, that will have been worth it all. Robert..I know what you mean about the bb consuming you...I come here to share good and bad days, sometimes just to ramble...we have to balance it all... The detaching thing is hard to do, easy to say..I am learning that for right now h needs the time and space for whatever...that when and if he is ready,it will have be the two of us together to mend the pieces. I have spent the last months trying so hard to keep it all together thinking that it will all mend even with him gone...wrong..he has to want to be a part of it. Then I think, well, if our spouses don't have the resources we have had, they won't know how to start to mend it, they will be as ny friends are, "Guess it did not work, so d is the only solution" I don't know some days..We'll all just keep plugging along. Take care Sue
