Quote: I posted over on MLC about how our minister encourages him to do things for himself, not what other people want, and I got a response that said she is directing him the wrong way and that I should encourage him to find "male" minister to steer him in the right direction.
Well, we all know that our Ses cannot continue their same patterns and be with us until they truly review their feelings and do something about them. It requires significant reflection...of which many of us have already done. Most of us are a BIG step ahead of our Ses and understand certain things that they have not yet realized. I think, in a way, although we can help "guide" them sometimes, it's really up to them to make the changes that are necessary to make them happy. We have no control.
And yes, we've all contributed in some way to the demise of our Rs. It would be foolhardy to not admit our own shortcomings. Yet, we're trying to change that dynamic. By changing that dynamic, hopefully we can lead (by example) our Ses.
