sometimes it is an mlc and sometimes it is just the compilation of a the little things that we did or didn't do in our r that have led them out the door.
I see nothing wrong in the minister telling h to do these things for himself and not what others want...it is like telling him to do what he needs to do to make sure that what he does he does because it is what will truly make him happy not just doing things to be the "good guy" or because it is what others want. I believe I read you say that h is/was always doing things for others and perhaps it is possible that in always trying to do for others and keep others happy that he has lost some of himself and that is all the minister is trying to show him??
in anycase I would recommend that if reading in the mlc forum is bringing you down to not read there. I know that I've avoided the infidelity section because I'd rather not here the nitty gritty stories of affairs when I am trying to deal with h's a as being simply an ea.
do you really think h is in a mlc anyway??? yes he is on a journey but it need not be an mlc journey.
if complimenting h is not something you did before then try to keep it in mind when an opportunity arises to do so.
