I have seen it written that a woman can not love two men at the same time. Some may disagree. I believe it is part of the confusion during the onset of replay. They want to eat cake, but feel guilty doing it. They want to have those lost feelings of enfatuation for you again, but often can't find it in the throngs of wanting another.
My x wanted a midlife tat. I begged her not to do that to herself. Not without a great deal of soul searching, and testing with temporary, etc. Don't know how that turned out. Never will.
