I basically had the same light bulb go off. I've decided to become independent again and to do things for me. Give H the room he wants. I will not call and when he does I'll simply enjoy the conversation. I'm not going to force him to do things or to come by.
Let him be on his own and let me be on my own.
As for the ring I still wear mine. I probably always will at least that's how I feel now.
