That's what I'm working on RIGHT NOW. I have the same view of God as you do.
I want God to fix the problem without really changing me. I have trouble saying, "I will worship you and delight in you even if my family falls apart."
But brother, that's part of detachment. Detaching ourselves from the idols of marriage, family, prosperity that tell us we can't be happy without them. Putting God first is part of "Getting a Life." And once God is first (our true love, joy happiness, delight and strength), then our spouses won't sense they are necessary for our happiness, and, *presto* we aren't indicting them anymore, rather we are inviting them to our full, God-centered lives.
I still cry in church services. I even have a catholic church near my office I go to during lunch where I can cry when I need to.
So I don't have this nailed down. I'm journeying with you towards detachment and being God-intoxicated.
