I think in the end she will appreciate your strength vs. the om soft and gentle. I bet soft and gentle really translate to weak. Like energies attracked and the om is likely depressed and has lower self esteem right now than your w. MLCers always affair down. So right now your w likes that in a man but some day she will need your strength and she will apprciate it.
The burning bridges comment I have heard before with others. So don't worry it is common.
