Well guess what?? H came by to pick up son to go for movie, and while son was upstairs fixing bathroom sink, I told h that I had a light bulb go off in the night...that I could not sleep and that I had done alot of thinking...I am on cloud nine right now in that I think I finally realized that for now h is gone, and that I can't always be waiting to see if he calls...I told him that this was not a good time to talk as my hormonal emotions let the tears flood...but he seemed to want to talk(a little, I did most of it)so through the tears I said that I am learning that I will be ok, and that I can go on with life...do things with out him...I did say that the ring thing made me feel that he was saying it is for sure over, h said not at all, that is not the case, he did not offer, and I did not ask why.I said that for the past 2 months if I did not have some contact with him every few days that he would just forget me...he did not answer...he also said that since he moved out that we have been together almost every weekend...and he talked to the minister and she said then it does not sound like you are getting much of the alone time that you moved out for. H again said that the reason he left was because he needs to straighten out his life and being together and doing all kinds of things is the same as before, except that he sleeps somewhere else. I said that is true and that I respect the alone time, told him it was at first, but now I go out Borders and enjoy the muscic and books. I also said that I have learned so much that we can have our seperate friends and activities, something we never had, for 24 yrs we went to work and came home...I said maybe I was controling in that matter, but I knew nothing else...I grew up in a family where my dad did go to work and come home each night..no outside activites..so I thought that is what a family should do. Anyway, I kept saying to h that I hope I did not say anything stupid, but that I really felt good..there are things around thte house that need to be done..painting etc..that I have put off wanting to do.Ialso slipped in that I had thought about maybe we could sell the house.I said I know it is too early to think of that, but that we need more space, we have no finished basement, no family room,no space to be alone.Of course that is really no reason to get a new house, but we are cramped with 4 adults(even though our kids will be leaving some day)..it is an old house, small kitchen, no closets.. So that is where I am at right now, at least he reassured that the ring was not his way of saying it is over..now I wish I would have asked why then..I am not ready to take mine off, so I won't. Till later Sue
