Hello Sue, I can sympathize about the ring. When my H left, he took off his ring. Those rings meant so much to us so it hurt to see that. I eventually gave it back to him and he took it but still does not wear it. After 2 months it still hurts to see that his finger is bare. His excuse is "it doesn't FEEL right to wear it". They know how to get to us, I suppose. Best wishes to you. ~~~Debi