Piecing or just making friendly with the elephant?

[cat03]

men coming back from As are very protective of their privacy (mine was, since I found out about A through going through his things)

Accept his new boundaries, the past R is that, past. You have a new R now, and if his wishing are for now not to talk w/you 5+ a day, give him that. With time, when he feels better, he'll open up a bit more.

Thing get better, took about 8mths + for my H to actually be loving to me and me getting over the worst of the A and feeling loved, but it's here, and all the wait and work was worth it.