imLin, I agree because in all my years of marriage, I would not have even come as close as I did recently to having a liaison. I was looking to be loved and accepted but was fortunate I was working on my relationship with God to be able to stop it before it happened. I am responsible for my actions but it made it more likely with what is happening in my life.

And thanks about the 85 pounds. It started with food poisoning and then I found out shortly afterwards my W was through with me so I could not eat for about a week. After that it was determination and a lot of prayer. I wanted her to see what she would be missing

If J's H was being where he was supposed to be and loving his W like he should, the sitch probably would never have happened.

J, sorry for talking about you like you aren't here. We all care about you very much and we will stick by you all the way through this. Do not give up!


Me:56, W:51
D:26,S:24,S:22
Married:18
Bomb 9/27/06
Separated 11/27/06
Divorced 10/6/08
Leaving it up to God