LL suggested I stop by. Our sitch are very similar. My H left this weekend. Bomb dropped in April 2002. EA with OW was short lived when her H found voice mail message and stopped it. I truly bekieve that there is nothing there. H hated me in summer and was really angry. We have become friends lately. Check my thread over in newcomers.
Like you I want H back. I need to be patient and give him time and space but it's so hard. I am also going against a clock. H had filed for D. Since I acknowledged it things seem better. I can only hope with the waiting period we can piece things back.
I wish you luck and see a lot of hope in your sitch. Hope to hear from you.