I could not agree with you more imLin. At an appropriate time, that information is the right of the spouse to know but just not now. That info would be used against her at this point to justify her H actions. If he is willing to work on the M and they are going through counseling that might be a good time. That is going to have to be her decision when the best time will be. I certainly hope my W comes clean about her EA/PA? if it did get physical. Would I forgive her? Yes, if it is over.
Definitely need to consider it before sexual relations between the H and W.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God