Cobra, I'll answer your first question. I was being sarcastic.
As for the rest, this is not a debate. This is not about whether you are right or whether I am right. I simply came here to tell my story because I was encouraged to do so. So I did.
Your opinions, beliefs, and analysis are just that -- your opinions, beliefs and analysis, based on your experience. You're entitled to them. I don't agree with all of them, but I thank you for sharing them. Whether we agree or not really doesn't matter. It is just not important.
Fearless, I thank you so much for your posts. I agree with everything you said. It is my responsibility to take the knowledge I now have and heal myself and my R. That is what I intend to do.