woops I hit enter too soon...I am so afraid that all this will be too comfortable for both of us and we won't even want to try to piece it back..why would we..if you can come and go, have friends..be alone, pay the bills, why bother trying to live together again. Sorry I sound down, just feel like nothing is changing either way.I don't think I have pursued him..but will not call him. Come to think of it the one Sunday I did not seek him out, he came to me..so there are things if I just watch. Thanks for the support..it feels so good to just come here and write Sue