If you play outside of your marriage these days, it is extremely likely that you will end up with the "player acceptable" STD's, HPV and Herpes I and II. A condom is only good at protecting from a few STDs, and that protection is somewhat marginal.
I am glad that you confessed to your wife. Ultimately, she will be able to help you deal with your guilt, but there will be a price to pay as she now carries some of the burden of your guilt. It will change your relationship. The both of you will have to make a plan for recovery and a new direction for your relationship that will help protect the relationship from further disrespect.
Quote: ------------------------------------------------------------- But there's a part of me that would like to see her assert herself as independent. For a brief moment between the time she asserts her independence and the time she leaves me, I think I would be incredibly attracted to her. I rally don't think it will get to that point but it makes me wonder how I can have those feelings. -------------------------------------------------------------
Those feelings come from guilt. The attraction comes from a desperate desire to see the dynamic of the relationship change.
You two are unlikely to get through this without some outside help. You are going to have to get to a place of understanding as to why you did what you did. Your wife is going to have to come to terms with her contribution to the state of the relationship. Then a plan will have to be implemented that will deal with both major issues.
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
