Hey, thanks you guys for chcecking in and the GREAT advice..
Robbie, where have you been...you wrote such words of hope and inspiration to me..the beginner here.I know that deep down tings have been going slowly in the right direction, but I sometimes want it all to be better right now. I am so thankful that we have this bb to come to and are able to get the reality checks back..It sound like you and your w are on the right path to piecing your m..do you have a post somewhere I could read your story?

Kaw, you are always so wise with your thoughts and suggestions..we are going to movie tomorrow with some friends...I wish h would call me and WANT to go with just me to a movie like old times..or ask me to grab a bite to eat..like old times..but as I know he is just in the beginning of finding his own self in all this. If most of you can recall there was this ff(that I still believe played a huge part in our distancing),anyways since she has her new mf(lover, boyfriend, whatever he is) she has kinda dumped my h for all the "other" stuff she needed for all these months while her own m was falling apart.I think, not sure and don't want to ask my h, but I think he is having a hard time feeling like he was used..Again, maybe I am way off here, and lord knows from the past, I can be way off. But..when I start to think insecure thoughts, I think maybe it was all a plot, she is using new mf for awhile, till my h and I are sep for a length, then they will be a "couple". I know, I know..I have said all this before, but what if???
I really don't believe it, but what if her new mf does not work out??If I am right and that she has no time for my h now, that he won't fall into her trap again...just some thoughts.
Thanks again for all the responses...I really am trying to foccus on me...and it is kinda nice not to have to worry about where I go or when I'll be home...
Till next time
Sue