Sounds like things are much more positive in your world. That is terrific and being an ex-Navy brat I concur that family moves offer new insights into ALL members of the family. Mostly, I think that kind of opportunity is great for everyone.
I liked your pun. What does your W feel about your solo SL? Does she ever wonder or ask you about any of it? Do you discuss porn use and that sort of thing? Or is it that she puts out what she is willing to and you are free to do as you wish on your own? I am interested in how an LD spouse might view this activity. I am bothered by my H's mb and porn viewing although I have no idea when, how often, or the content. It bothers me mostly from the standpoint that it doesn't occur to him that it saps his sexual interest in me which is already too low for my taste. I keep wondering how I would feel about it if I had "enough" sex. I like to think I am differentiated enough that it wouldn't bother me but since I have yet to have "enough" in this R I can't answer the question.
Also, in what area of your R are you LD partner? This was something I took away from Schnarch and I recall being honestly surprised about the areas of our lives in which I am LD.
Do you still see a C? Do you still discuss your SL or do you just live and let live at this point?
I am interested because there are several couples I see as kind of "graduates" - they are mostly happy, mostly working together on things and have achieved some acceptable version of a sex life. However, what that means is definately unique to every situation.
