waiting for things beyond my control to be resolved
Since things are beyond your control, why waste your energy on it?
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I keep hoping that something will click inside H, and it'll be like he just WAKES UP and realizes that he's got a FABULOUS wife and gorgeous kids and a great life, and they deserve nothing less than for him to drop his impenetrable defensive wall, realize how his actions have repeated themselves over the years and LEARN how to stop his "screw up" patterns (his words), live up to his potential, move home, ask for forgiveness for all the pain he's put them through (or at least show a smidgen of remorse), return to activity in church and be the leader and protector of his home. Oh, and maybe spend more time with the family than with his ATV (or other ultimate horse-power project).
Sigh. I'm not asking too much, am I?
Well, I don't think you are asking for too much. Why not break this down into small baby steps? Are there some things that you can let go of and live without? Your H likes ATV's, is this something the family could do with him? Shake things up a bit and try something different. Just a thought...
