Sorry I gave James Hollis' book the wrong name - It is Middle Passages: From Misery to Meaning in Midlife
Mrs CAC 4 - I looked the book up on Amazon this morning and looked inside the book. This quote jumped out at me right away.
Your opinion is the same as this Jungian psychologist (I added the bold): "The conclusions about the world drawn by the child are thus derived from a narrow spectrum and are inevitably partial and prejudicial. The child cannot say, "My parent has a problem, which has an effect upon me." The child can only conclude that life is anxious and the world unsafe."
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus