Sue: when my h ask for reconciliation after 4 month of separation and OW included, we talked a lot about what kind of relation we wants... but beleive me, i think now that in that time he was still in a big crisis, wanting to feel confortable, wanting to return to his normal life, but not commit to work on our M... so, bc of that, bc he was still in crisis, a second bomb dropped 8 months after reconciliation... As your h, mine looks and acts different when we were with people than when we were alone.. he changed moods in a impressive way... After being kind with friends around, when we arrive home he just not speak at all... i saw him sad, angry... And you know what...?... i beleive that since i began DB thecnincs, began with great 180, began caring about me and doing my own life, at the same time i help him to get out of that mood... I need to expect steps back, but now i am better prepare to deal with that...!!... Maybe your h is in withdrawal... and in that stage showing them we have our own life... doing 180 like not initiating any talks, like not calling at all, makes them turn their head and heart towards us...!!
