I think your note is a good one, and it breaks my heart to read it. I think you should send it to him, with an end note of "I'd love to discuss this with you" (as I think that it's always best to discuss in person, and not just in e-mail, altho I loooove e-mail to clarify my thoughts and words just so).
Anyone who thinks that rejected affection is just "all about the sex" to an HD partner needs to read notes like this to "get it." I have only ML to my wife twice in the past five years, and it's a long story that I won't go into on your thread, but suffice to say that I miss the affection, and the kisses, and the thought & love BEHIND them, 50x more than I miss the sex.
Good luck with your sitch. I'm sorry I don't have specific advice for you, only because I feel so unqualified to give it, but I do feel for you.
